You just need to forgive, right? - Andrew Kitchen
SPIRITUAL RENOVATION Fresh thoughts about following Jesus You need to forgive and move on. Right? Or maybe it’s actually very wrong. Someone has said terrible things to you, accused you, treated you harshly, possibly spiritually abused you in a church setting and now you are being told to forgive your perpetrator, because, … you know, forgiveness is what Christians are supposed to do. This scenario has played out on more than one occasion . It’s common! So how to deal with it when it comes your way? The first thing to recognize is that this kind of language is very simply an extension of the original abuse. It is a simple bid to excise the perpetrator from any repentance or restorative action. It’s a lot easier to trundle out these seven words than to perform any serious introspection. Hey, if it works five times out of ten it’s worth it. If it works one time out of ten it’s still worth it. Avoiding accountability for actions has a big payoff. But, holy smokes… the carnage. The damage.